Blog Post 9 (June 22-27) Seeking to Understand

One of the most powerful ideas from reading “Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage” this week was that, “We should enjoy and appreciate our partners. We should forgive them of their humanness. The single most promising marriage-fixing effort is not tinkering with our partners’ characters; it is loving, cherishing, and appreciating them” (pg. 127).

I liked this quote because too often we see only the flaws. We complain that he never puts dishes away, or that she always whines about having to make the bed. Instead of focusing on these little bits of annoyance, we should really focus on all the wonderful things our spouses are and do.

So, for my thoughts this week I wanted to list a few great qualities my husband has and why I appreciate them:

He is patient; he is able to take in stress better than I can and helps me to remain calm when we are faced with difficult situations.

He is romantic; not just once have I had a surprise bouquet of roses show up at my door. He knows that I like romantic gestures like that, so he will randomly surprise me “just because.”

He is loving; he tells me at least an hundred times a day that he loves me. He texts me love notes from work, he kisses me whenever we come near each other, and he is always willing to hold my hand.

He is honest; he and I know everything about everything in our lives. We have no secrets, he has given me his heart and expects me to protect it.

He is smart; he can do math in his head! It takes me about fifteen minutes to find out the same information as he just knows.

He is hard working; he works so much all day long and studies all the time so that our family can have a better life. He knows that I want to stay at home with our children, so he works to allow me that blessing.

He is strong in his beliefs; he and I are in almost perfect agreement about what really matters. He is strong in doing what he believes is right. We both have the same standards for our family and our lives, and he can be counted on to uphold those beliefs.

There are so many things that make my husband wonderful, and it would take hours to put down all the things he is amazing at, so instead I am going to leave it here and just say that he is amazing, and I am grateful for the man I married, and hope to be worthy of him.

 

Goddard, H. (2009). Chapter 7: Charity. In Drawing heaven into your marriage: Eternal Doctrines that Change Relationships. Fairfax, VA: Joymap Publishing.